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Do you suffer from pride? Are you humble? Which one are you?


PRIDE = ARROGANCE


DEEP FEELING OF SELF PLEASURE OR SATISFACTION DERIVED FROM SELF ACHIEVEMENTS.


HUMBLE = NOT ARROGANT, ASSERTIVE, EGOISTIC, CONCEITED OR PRETENTIOUS


HUMILITY = THE STATE OF BEING HUMBLE.


PRIDE = DISGRACE.

PRIDE = IMPRISONS YOU

PRIDE = LOSS OF EVERYTHING

HUMILITY = CONTENTMENT.

HUMILITY = YOU GAIN FREEDOM FROM EVERYTHING


A man with PRIDE, suffers from this:


1) Full of yourself

2) Always looking down on people

3) Makes others feel bad, because they are not like you

4) Difficulty in accepting fault

5) You are never wrong

6) Cannot say, "PLEASE, THANK YOU, I AM SORRY, PLEASE FORGIVE ME"

7) People avoid you

8) You have a reputation of failed relationships

9) You are unteachable

10) Opportunities begin to SKIP you


What is your WEAKNESS?

What is your STRENGTH?

Are you ALWAYS RIGHT?

Are you able to apologise?

Are you able to sincerely ask for forgiveness?

Are you able to be KIND, or is this task too difficult for you?

Are you able to let others speak while you LISTEN?


IF NOT, YOU HAVE A PROBLEM



LOVE BLOCKER = EGO

ACTION = LET IT GO







COMMUNICATION is KEY


1) INITIAL DISTANCE is necessary

2) When the FLAMES subside, reach for her HAND

3) ALLOW YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO SPEAK THROUGH THE SORROW OF EMOTION

4) DO NOT preoccupy yourself with other people

5) Be AVAILABLE to LISTEN ACTIVELY WITHOUT INTERUPING


DO NOT RESPOND IN ANGER

RATHER TURN AROUND, DO NOT VENT

WAIT

WAIT

WAIT

TAKE THE FLAMES

TAKE THE SCREAMING. IT IS PART OF HEALING

TAKE AND FACE THE MUSIC. BE READY TO DANCE



IF YOU FORGIVE = TIME = HEALS = PROVIDES YOU A THICKER SKIN


GIVE HER TIME

GIVE HER SPACE

GIVE HER OPPORTUNITY TO SPEAK


ALLOW HER TIME TO THINK

ALLOW HER TIME TO COOL DOWN

ALLOW HER TIME TO AGREE TO LISTEN


WHEN SHE IS READY, SHE WILL ACCEPT YOUR COMPANY

LISTEN

LISTEN

LISTEN


UNFORGIVENESS


Is it binding you?

Is it leading you further away from reality and other people ?

Is it making you believe the LIES you keep telling yourself?


Such as, "I AM RIGHT"

Such as, "THEY WRONG"


For 3 minutes say these:


"Please forgive me, I hurt you, I'm sorry"

"Please forgive me, I hurt you, I'm sorry"

"Please forgive me, I hurt you, I'm sorry"


"It was my fault, not yours"

"It was my fault, not yours"

"It was my fault, not yours"


"Please show me how you did that"

"Please show me how you did that"

"Please show me how you did that"


After 3 minutes:


You will feel a LOAD LEAVING your shoulders

You will feel your LUNGS being able to expand again

You will feel a frown turning into a SMILE


Guess what?


You have begun to FREE yourself


BEST MEDICINE FOR PRIDE = SIMPLY LET IT GO


FORGIVENESS ALLOWS YOU TO LET GO


WHEN YOU LET GO = YOU RECIEVE


BUILD THE ROAD TO RECONCILIATION


7 "A's" to a GOOD APOLOGY


A - ADDRESS the person

A - ADMIT what you did was WRONG

A - ACKNOWLEDGE the HURT you inflicted

A - ACCEPT the consequences

A - AVOID "Ifs OR buts"

A - ALTER reassure behavioural change

A - ASK for genuine forgiveness



TELL THE TRUTH


SHE'll ACCEPT YOUR APOLOGY


Benefits of FORGIVENESS


1) Less ANXIETY

2) Less STRESS

3) Lower BLOOD PRESSURE

4) Cures DEPRESSION

5) Stronger IMMUNE SYSTEM

6) Rebuilds TRUST

7) Renews RELATIONSHIPS

8) Increases MENTAL health

9) Increases EMOTIONAL freedom

10) Re-boots SELF HAPPINESS


MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT, HOLD HANDS WHEN SHE SPEAKS. THEN MAKE YOUR PITCH AND APOLOGY


TRY TO AVOID THIS


BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL MAN IS A WOMAN


Most things are beyond your control.


TRUST GOD

BE FAITHFUL IN AFFLICTION

PRAY FROM YOUR HEART

PATIENT IN WAITING



LOVE


WITH LOVE:


1) CLIMB any mountain

2) CROSS any SEA

3) TRAVERSE any SAND

4) EVERYTHING is POSSIBLE


WITHOUT LOVE:


1) CANNOT move any mountain

2) CANNOT CROSS any SEA

3) CANNOT TRAVERSE and SAND

4) EVERYTHING is IMPOSSIBLE


LOVE BLOCKERS


1) LIES

2) LIES

3) LIES

4) LIES

5) LIES

6) LIES

7) LIES

8) LIES

9) LIES

10) LIES


LOVE FLOOD GATES


1) TRUTH

2) TRUTH

3) TRUTH

4) TRUTH

5) TRUTH

6) TRUTH

7) TRUTH

8) TRUTH

9) TRUTH

10) TRUTH


NO MATTER HOW BIG OR HOW SMALL THE LIE

A LIE IS A LIE....IT LEADS TO DESTRUCTION. ULTIMATELY TO DEATH


THE TRUTH ALWAYS SHOWS UP


THE ONLY POWER IN A LIE = THE ABILITY TO CONSTANTLY RESURRECT ITSELF


THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE


LIES + TIME = TRUTH

TRUTH + TIME = HEALING


No matter which one you tell, it brings the RESULT to the CORRECT ADDRESS in the end.



NOTE TO SELF


Every morning, I take a mental NOTE of the first 3 human beings that I interact with.


1) I Initiate a polite GREETING

2) I SMILE from the SOUL

3) I give an opportunity for FEEDBACK


THE FEEDBACK IS GODS TEST FOR AN AREA IN YOUR SPIRIT THAT NEEDS WORK


Find your answer on the LIST below.


Question ?

Which FRUIT of YOUR SPIRIT needs, reflection, prayer and work?



KEEP GROWING

KEEP LEARNING

KEEP SMILING




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