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"Can guys and girls JUST be friends"?


Friendzone:


A situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other.


Many times when you are messaging together, you both have different expectations



Girls need this from a guy friend


A friend who can protect them

They give good and honest advice

They do not have any other motive

They will make you laugh

They are not toxic like other guy or girlfriends

They tend to be less dramatic

They help understand men better

They can rely on him

They will be honest with you

They will allow you to let your inner dude come out to play

They will be your biggest critic

They will listen to you


CONFIDENCE

MATURITY

STRENGTH

LOYALTY

TRUST


Most immature men ONLY want ONE thing

YES SEX


Here is how a woman hears herself speak "BLAH".........He's not LISTENING, why is he not LISTENING


BOYS washroom door




They will break break break your heart

They will shatter it into tiny little pieces




Sometimes whilst with your guy friend you may inadvertently kiss

When this kiss happens, it is proven that the GIVER will have EYES CLOSED

When this kiss happens, it is proven that the receiver will have EYES OPEN




Guys need this from a girl friend


God fearing girl

Pure love

Understanding

Uncomplicated

Maturity

Loyalty

Attention


Blah blah blah sex

Blah blah blah sex

Blah blah blah sex



Here is how a man hears a woman speak "BLAH BLAH BLAH"...SEX..."BLAH BLAH BLAH"...SEX


GIRLS washroom door





Can girls and girls JUST be friends?


Whitney Houston and her best





Guys and girls as friends will exhibit and ALL the qualities of an intimate relationship

They will exhibit ALL these qualities without crossing the BOUNDARIES of the CIRCLE


MIXED SIGNALS ARE COMMON



Many times your friend hooks up with somebody in your circle of friends

Most of the time a friend of YOURS whom she got know through YOU



It actually breaks the friendship up very quickly

You end up being the FRIEND of a FRIEND being included in everything

You end up being included in everything EXCEPT the CORE intimacy that you need


Ever feel like you DO all the work

Ever feel like you LOSE out on the PRIZE

The PRIZE which not not only her BODY

The prize which is also her HEART








When this happens you cannot break down in front of her

When this happens you break down to her BEST friend instead



The CIRCLE of THREE

One trick is never to mention "I'm just your FRIEND"

Never mention "I'm grateful to have a FRIEND LIKE YOU"

If you do, you AUOMATICALLY fall out of the centre of this CIRCLE of three





Chandler and Monica

Great friends

Who found that they cannot do without each other

This can take months, even years to achieve

It take a friendship built on TRUST

By that time you've seen everything

You've seen the BEST

You've seen the WORST

You STUCK around for it all

Yes, even if they dated your best friend

They will eventually come back to you


WHY

Your best friend is NOT you

YOU ARE YOU




FRIEND ZONE



A friendly "I love our friendship grin"

A friendly "I LOVE YOU" grin



They easily cross that friendly line without knowing

They DO KNOW this a SLIPPERY SLOPE for you



Proverbs 17:17

A friend loves at all times

Through everything you go through

GOOD and BAD



Other friends do not want a relationship

Other friends are like a FOX

They want everything and anyone else BUT you

"How you doin"

Classical Joey Tribibiani



Literally everything that moves



Do you know a friend like this

You still love him or her simply because that is how they are

They are honest in this way as this is their true colours





The friend that wants a relationship will go to the all the trouble

He will do whatever it takes to impress you

He will fail, but remain consistent in your pursuit

Yes like a wounded buffalo



He will carry you when he is dead tired


He will LISTEN to you when he is exhausted



When you are vulnerable

When he cannot contain your beauty anymore he will touch you

When you are overwhelmed by emotional distraught he will make that move

ALL to CLIMB out of this FIRNEDZONE




Even when all that happens

Even with all of these signs of his affection

The girl will still HURT him



You literally feel you are constantly in the HEART BREAK HOTEL



My girl the movie


This affection can start at an early age

This affection towards you starts as a tiny FLAME

This affection grows to become a RAGING uncontrollable FIRE of DESIRE for you



You grew up sharing intimate SECRETS



You made a PACT

You literally created an unbreakable BOND



Do you remember your FIRST KISS

WHY

WHO

WHEN

WAS it special



When you both allowed each other

When you both CONSENTED

TRUST

BOND

A FLAME began to grow from that very moment





Did you share this moment in a secret place

It was your romantic getaway



You didn’t know it at the time

You became FRIENDS FOR LIFE

Possibly your WIFE

Possibly your HUSBAND





For the rest of your life you spend your search searching for your Macaulay Culkin

You simply UNDERSTOOD each other



You've told him everything

Still you walk away

Still you turned your back on him

He watched you CRY

He watched you LAUGH

He saw your HIGHS

He saw your LOWS



Always made the wrong choice and went with the BAD BOYS with no FEELINGS

Still you explored with Mr WRONG

Still you were captured by Mr WRONG's deception



I want to know what love is

I want YOU to show me

ONLY YOU

Know one else



5 LANGUAGES OF LOVE


1) QUALITY TIME

2) WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

3) PHYSICAL TOUCH

4) RECEIVING GIFTS

5) ACTS OF SERVICE


What is yours

Do you have TWO?

Where is your love tank today

WHY

WHERE IS HE

WHERE IS SHE

WHO ARE THEY WITH



When you pay attention to your partners love language you DRAW closer to that person



So CLOSE

CLOSE enough to almost KISS

Why, because you understand THEM

Why, because they understand YOU




You never realise what you've got until it's GONE

If you do not pay attention to the 5 LOVE languages they will simply LEAVE

They will LEAVE to find the elsewhere




Moment of realisation

He is pathetic

You are pathetic

You are meant for each other


A mans weakness is the inability to LISTEN

A mans weakness is the inability to give your partner YOUR ATTENTION UNDIVDED ATTENTION


No DISTRACTIONS

No DEVICES

No WIFI


It comes with practice

Practice makes PERFECT

With PERFECTION IMPERFECT dissapears

They STAY and stand by your side




A shoulder to LEAN on

As long as you PROVIDE it

As long as you are willing to put in the TIME to LISTEN

As long as you are willing to be there

As long as you are willing to stay no matter what

That's what truly MATTERS




Do not underestimate the power of QUALITY TIME

When some body gives you their TIME

They are giving you love



Be AVAILABLE

Be there

I'llbe there



Search your mind

Search the depths your HEART

Search the brightest part of your SOUL


LOOK UP

HE IS RIGHT THERE

SHE IS RIGHT THERE

THEY ALWAYS HAVE BEEN THERE

YOU MARRY YOUR SCHOOL SWEETHEART


THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE

Just we CHOSE to look in ALL the WRONG PLACES


THE CHOICE LIES WITH YOU

ONLY YOU






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