Communication
There are 4 types
1) Verbal
2) Non verbal
3) Written
4) Visualize
Do you communicate more ONLINE? Written/visual
Do you look forward to SOCIAL MEDIA? Written/visual
Do you communicate more in PERSON? Verbal/non verbal, written, visual
What mode of communication best describes you?
Do you look for instant gratification
Do you look at how many APPS you have
Do you rather SWIPE
Do you rather CLICK
Do you rather WATCH
Are you addicted to your device?
Are you a victim of REAL SOCIAL DISTANCING?
Are you trying to get CLOSER to PEOPLE?
Are you PUSHING PEOPLE FURTHER AWAY?
Are you into NEWNESS?
Are you obsessed with the NEXT BEST thing?
Are you constantly searching for the PICTURE that you have formulated in your mind?
Are you looking for MR MRS RIGHT?
What is your MORAL STATUS?
What do you believe with information provided?
What are your limitations with opening online profiles?
Are you aware of the dangers of online dating?
Are you aware of online dating security?
Are you aware that the online profiles are created to CATCH your attention
Are you aware that online profiles have BIG gap between TRUTH and LIES?
As a quick measure:
Dating online SUCCESS RATE?
Dating in person SUCCESS RATE?
Dating and relationships that have lasted in REALITY from VIRTUAL REALITY ?
Depending on the scenario, they SWIPED RIGHT thousands of TIMES to "IT's A MATCH"
That's a REALITY CHECK
Do you COUNT?
YES/NO
Why is this important to you
Blue or White TICKS?
Likes
Emojis
Smiles
Visitors
Subscribers
Followers
Who viewed?
Who LIKE 👍
Who LOVED ❤️
DIGITAL LIKES
REAL LIFE LIKES
REAL LIFE LOVE
Are you looking too hard for LOVE?
You don't NEED TEN THOUSAND LIKES.
You NEED LOVE.
If you LOVE yourself, you will ATTRACT LOVE
When you are in LOVE, ticks, likes, followers, Instagram , social media, dating apps don't matter.
Separate what you WANT from what you NEED.
Are you CONTENT?
Are you CONTROLLED by the WORLD perception of YOU?
Have you given up on people?
Have you got a friend whom you confide in, who can listen to you?
Have you got the ability to create the opportunity to TALK with your partner in person?
The overwhelming ANXIETY that social media brings into our lives has got to be managed
Set LIMITS
Set TIME limit
Set SOCIAL MEDIA daily limit
Set aside no more than 4 hours per day on social media
Increase outdoor activity, activity in general
Make a schedule of priorities of things to do
Set aside TIME during your busy schedule to have human contact, partner, friends family
De-activate NOTIFICATIONS during times of rest
Females communicate:
COMPLEX
MULTI LEVELS
MULTI TOPICS
MULTI CHANNELS
EVERY POSSIBILITY
ALL OPTIONS
ALL POSSIBLE OUTCOMES
WORRY
OVERTHINKING
What WOMAN talk about:
1) Sex, size, positions, fantasies, who's having, who isn't, sex toys
2) Relationships, what's wrong
3) Guys, boyfriend , ex-boyfriends, how good, how bad, what they miss
4) Text messages, how many, to how little, to insecurity about why no messages
5) Embarrassing moments
6) Secrets
7) Shopping, food
8) Complaints about life or work, even when the going is good
9) Beauty and fashion, they do fitness, they don't talk about it
10) Other woman, rumours and gossip, jealousy
What men talk about:
1) Sex, whom, how often, when to expect getting more. Very jealous about your woman to cause you many sleepless nights
2) Cars, things, brag, what I have accumulated
3) Sports
5) Macho
6) How many of things, shows getting is good, makes up for smaller something else
7) Money
8) Fitness
9) Work
10) What they did, not what are going to do
Gossip definition :
Casual or uncontsrained conversation, reports about other people, typically which are NOT CONFIRMED to be TRUE
GOOD GOSSIP
BAD GOSSIP
What is needed is a STAGE
A good coffee shop
A quiet place to sit, where it is possible to download, and unload ALL current issues
A pub
A back office
Females:
Females gossip talk, compare, complain. SEX, how good, bad, how they miss, wish
Female gossip is important to reach a level of understanding with each other
Females gossip to COMPARE
Females gossip to COMPLAIN
Females gossip to AIR FREELY items that can’t be repeated in front of a boyfriend , partner
Females gossip to OPENLY discuss secrets, GOOD, BAD and BEARABLE UNBEARABLE
Females gossip to talk how BAD a FASHION statement is being made by another female
Females gossip to talk about other females body shape, fat, look or other
Males
Gossip ego
Gossip boasting
Overemphasise on the TRUTH
Over qualify statements of TRUE account
Exaggerating small things
Tend to be more insecure than women
Tend to be weaker emotionally than women especially with lack of or no discipline
Tend to gossip about things they HATE, which is actually what they LACK themselves
Tend to gossip about things they are jealous about
Tend to be insecure, inadequacy , SEX, CAREER, PERSONAL
Females communication :
Emotional
Complex
Multi channel
Multi topic
Multi situations
Multi what ifs
Indecisive
Male communication:
Decision making faster
Simple topic
Single channel
Specialise on things one at at time
Unable to multi task
Modern communication TAKES us FAR AWAY
Modern communication is meant to BRING US CLOSER
The people we HURT are the people we LOVE the MOST
We communicate with SAME SEX seeking TRUTH of OPPOSITE SEX
We need to allow communication with SAME SEX to GAIN TRUTH and understanding
Our DEVICES are kept so CLOSE
Our LIVES are FAR from people we NEED CLOSE
Female BRAIN = COMPLEX, SOPHISTICATED and beautiful
Male BRAIN = SIMPLE, thinks one box at a time, SLOW, one GEAR at a time
We need to FIND AND MAINTAIN BALANCE
We need to regroup with SAME SEX
We need to regroup with OURSELVES
We need to regroup with OPPOSITE SEX
We need to regroup with our PARTNER
Non verbal communication speaks the loudest
Listening is the most difficult part of communication
Listening is a practice that comes with time and willingness
W = WHY
A = AM
I = I
T = TALKING
Before we SPEAK
Ask these 3 questions
1) Is it from my HEART
2) Is it from my MIND
3) Is it from my SOUL
Physical touch is KEY
EYE contact is KEY
Listening from the heart
Feeling from the spirit and the soul
Engaging in deep conversation brings HARMONY
Reach out and hold her hands before you begin to LISTEN and SPEAK
Emotional RUSH
Emotional connection is made
Emotional connection is maintained through active listening
Emotional connection is maintaining eye contact
We need to CREATE TIME to ALLOW the SENDERS FEELINGS, EMOTIONS TOUCH OURS
We need to CREATE a PLATFORM TO TALK
We need to CREATE a STAGE for our partner to be heard
When we achieve this, a BOND is formed when these are not ONLY shared, BUT understood on an EMOTIONAL LEVEL
DON'T RUSH
Anger
Sorrow
Joy
Empathy
Sympathy
Sadness
Happiness
Passion
Embarrassment
Achievement
Share in PAIN
Share in SADNESS
Share in ANGER
Use kind words
Build intimacy
be humble when she is sharing FEELING
A SOFT answer turns away anger
Communication helps:
"I LOVE you" spoken SOFTLY and tenderness
"I felt disappointed you didn’t offer me help"
"Thanks for taking care of that"
"You look sharp in that suit"
"I like how you’re always on time"
"Thank you for doing that"
"You can always make me laugh"
"I'd be delighted to do the dishes"
"I will NOT allow what has happened in the past come between us"
"I hope we can learn from the experience "
Forgiveness is an extension of LOVE
LOVE keeps no score of wrong
LOVE keeps no record of the past
LOVE can talk about the PAST, but actions are left in the PAST" it was a lesson
Let past failures be history
Confess what you said was wrong
LOVE makes requests not demands
Don't tell, ASK
Seek advice
Ask her opinion
Use nice words
Take it SLOW
Sometimes you’re AHEAD
Sometimes you’re BEHIND
When you go to bed, check yourself
Life is trying to TELL you something
It is OKAY to FALL
What is important is that you FORGIVE
What is important is that you both TRY again
What is important is that you KEEP HONESTY
Whatever you do, maintain LOYALTY
Whatever you do, DO NOT HURT intentionally
No NAGGING words
Use encouraging words
See empathy from her perspective
Learn what's important for her
I care
I know
I am with you
I understand
Tell me
Maintain eye contact
How can I support you?No you don't look fat
I don't understand , but I'm going try
How can I support you?
You are sexy
Can I get your perspective on this?
You are the only one for me
Tell me about your day?
The truth is, I was wrong
I'm sorry that happened to you
What do you need from me?
Apologies for misunderstanding that you had
Pride aside
Be patient, smile genuinely
Be observant
Be still
Be quiet
Be involved
Be serious
Heads up
Listen actively
Don't ask
Don't tell
Don't interrupt
A BUNDLE OF FEELINGS THAT COME TOGETHER IN COMMON UNDERSTANDING
A BOND is to FASTEN TOGETHER
A BOND to be JOINED SECURELY TO something BY something
A BOND is an INSEPARABLE JOIN of SPIRIT and SOUL, not FLESH
BOND
A BOND is created when FLESH meets, sparks are created and UNLOCK a CONNECTION
A BOND is created on an intimate level through a deep understanding of the perso
A BOND can ONLY GROW
A BOND needs nutrition like a plant, like your body
A BOND needs work
A BOND needs understanding
A BOND needs perseverance
A BOND needs TIME
A BOND needs the WILL to TRY
A BOND needs honesty
A BOND needs two people, two people who deserve each other
Mind your thoughts
My partner and I are doing pretty well with this list below
ACCEPT THE PROCESS
I works for the BEST OUTCOME of your life
Don’t worry about what you cannot control
Don’t worry about what you cannot change
ADOPT A POSITIVE MINDSET EVERY MORNING
LIVE SIMPLE
LAUGH OFTEN
LOVE DEEPLY
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